Get My Look | What I Wear When I'm Trying, But Not Too Hard

It's ironic how, when you try to look like you're not trying, sometimes the best ensembles float up to the fashion surface, you know? I mean, there are definitely those times when nothing is working and after an hour you leave a wake of destruction in the form of three-quarters of your closet's contents strewn across your room, bed, bathroom, etc. Frustrated from trying too hard and attempting to now throw in the towel, raise the white flag, and come up with some excuse to not make it out that night.

That's one end of the spectrum. On the other side there's the get-dressesd-on-a-loop approach. The rinse and repeat that leaves you wearing out that same old ten percent of what's hanging in your closet because that's what's easy.

The point I'm going for is smack dab in the middle of these two styling scenarios. It's the point when there's definitely effort, but you don't feel the need to go overboard. You want to look pulled together, but you still want to look and feel like you, i.e. comfortable and hopefully, confident. This is the kind of look that, in my mind, achieves just that. It's a happy medium of polished and distressed, classic and creative, yin and yang, peas and carrots, wait...

Bottom line: This is what I wear when I'm trying to pull something together, but not into trying all too hard.

If there's one thing I've learned after ten years in the fashion industry, and this is also a great metaphor for life, it's that, when you push too hard, try too aggressively to get that square peg into a round hole, you end up feeling less-than. More importantly, you end up missing the entire point.

Loosening your grip a bit allows for space, and when you make space, new ideas are able to move in and out freely. Cue: evolutiona and growth. Sometimes we try so hard to get a look just right (or anything really) that we're missing out on all of the remarkable goodies that are right there in front of us waiting to be seen. We're too busy trying to perfect, to fit into a trend that doesn't fit into our personal style.

All I'm saying is, go with what works for you. If you don't know what that is, contact me. For now, what's working for me is the combination of a classic silk blouse with a slightly distressed short that reads, "casual," but with the addition of a few key accessories works it's way into an evening situation. I love when that happens.

The accessories pull it together, show I care, while the foundation of a button-front top and denim shorts keeps me grounded, or in this case, not trying too hard, but rather, going with the flow:

what I wear when I want to try but not too hard

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Style Tutorial #5 | 1 T by Alexander Wang Red Button Front Shirt, 5 Ways to Wear It

Style Tutorial #5 started at the sight of T by Alexander Wang's, tomato-red, button front, crepe shirt. It's simple, clean, colorful, and classic which means, editing down the tutorial to just five looks was a challenge. This video could have gone on for days people...Days.

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Often times, whether I'm doing a one-on-one consultation or group Styling Session, guests and clients ask me what 'essentials' they need to have in their closets for the season. It's kind of the million dollar question.
I've found that this 'core closet' as I call it, is really the key to every, single, wardrobe. Having the perfect basics for your body type (and knowing where to shop for them) as a fashion foundation allows you to tap into and wear one hundred (not just twenty) percent of what's in your closet.
This shirt from T by Alexander Wang is one of those basics. Sure, it's in a bold color, but it's not magenta, it's not highlighter-lime, it's a rich, tomato red which to me, can be as neutral as navy, olive, grey, or even taupe. It's just a more exciting way to wear a classic silhouette. Equally as versatile.
Don't see it yet? Good. The point is to show you something you may not have thought of, but your part of this is to remain a bit open to the possibilities. You've got nothing to lose.
That's what the Style Tutorials are all about: showing you new ways to wear pieces you see out in the shopping stratosphere so you can take the inspiration and incorporate it inside the walls of your own closet. Should you need a helping hand, a style translator to help you fine-tune your fashion language, I'm always here.
For now, it's video time. Take a peek at the latest, the five ways to wear this one sophisticated shirt:

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HTW T by Alexander Wangs Silk Shirt 5 Ways to Wear
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T by Alexander Wang Button-Front Crepe Shirt
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River Island Blazer (sold out, already! I know. Shop more blazers in the Closet below) riverisland.com

Rachel Zoe 'Jett' Tuxedo Stripe Wide Leg Pants nordstrom.com

Roberto Cavalli Ivory Pleated Floral Skirt stylebop.com

Helmut Lang Denim Pants thecorner.com

Rag & Bone Skinny Jean farfethc.com

See by Chloe Crepe Shorts net-a-porter.com

Sergio Rossi Kalhari Woven Sandal modaoperandi.com

Zara Sandals zara.com

Zara Pumps zara.com

Givenchy Cuff Sandals harveynichols.com

Nude clutch newlook.com

BCBG Runway Madison Portfolio Clutch bcbg.com

Clare Vivier Foldover Clutch shopbop.com

Claudia Satchel nastygal.com

Maiyet Small Como Satchel barneys.com

Rosa Collar Necklace guessbymarciano.guess.com

Hervé Van der Straeten Pastilles Earrings net-a-porter.com

Adia Kibur Cuff shopbop.com

House of Harlow 1960 Double Sunburst Pendant Necklace shopbop.com

J Crew Tassel Necklace jcrew.com

Wild Soul Elephant Black/Blue Sunglasses metroparkusa.com

 

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Here's the breakdown, look by look, so you can get up close and personal when it comes to the details. If you love a look and are going to try to pull it off, but you're unsure as to whether it's the right look for your body type, send me a quick note with your question and I'll get back to you.

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Style Tutorial #1 | How to Wear Tank Tops. 1 Rebecca Taylor Tank, 5 Ways to Wear It

Style Tutorial #1 comes into focus and shows you how to wear tank tops. In this case, it's all about a printed, floaty tank top (courtesy of Rebecca Taylor) just in time for rising temps. One tank, five ways to wear it, and that's just me warming up...
I decided to bring in a little Style 101 to the StyleShaker via some inspired videos that are short, sweet, to the point, and remarkably reminiscent of Cher's closet computer from the movie 'Clueless.' Seen it? Know the one I'm talking about? Have you been dying to figure out how to do that for yourself since the late nineties like I have?
Ok fine, maybe I'm alone in my obsession, but it was worth every minute of analysis when it came to figuring out how to replicate it.
Here's my version, an approach on how to (and a couple of how-not-to moments) wear one pick, in this case, a Rebecca Taylor tank that's at the top of the summer shopping list. Click play and see pieces slide in and out of the picture so you can literally watch how many looks can come from this one, incredibly versatile tank.
It's about optimizing your closet, a concept that is the foundation of my approach with every one of my clients (get the details on what I do here) I have that comes to me asking for some inspiration on new ways to wear what they have hanging in their closet. This is also about bringing it back down to earth. These looks are polished and fashion-forward, but above all, they are wearable and approachable for real women out there. That's the goal, SO, enough of me going on and on, check out the video and keep scrolling because there's plenty more to go thru here, read: see how each works for your body type.

Here's the big picture when it comes to how to wear tank tops, a summer essential. One tank, five ways to wear it, and go:

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Rebecca Taylor Top rebeccataylor.com

Sara Berman Leather Skirt theoutnet.com

Alexander McQueen Pants matchesfashion.com

DVb Victoria Beckham Jeans theoutnet.com

Joe's Jeans Rolled Jeans farfetch.com

J.Crew Chino Shorts 3" jcrew.com

Sol Asana Ankle Strap Sandal needsupply.com

Bottega Veneta Ankle Strap Sandal barneys.com

KORS Michael Kors Sandal neimanmarcus.com

CO OP Barneys New York Ankle Strap Sandal barneys.com

Sam Edelman Sandal shopbop.com

Kelly Katie Straw Tote dsw.com

BCBGMAXAZRIA Sienna Lasercut Tote bcbg.com

Givenchy Antigona Envelope Clutch forwardforward.com

Collection Privée Shoulder Bag yoox.com

Saint Laurent Beige Suede Betty Bag ssense.com
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look 1: This look works well for every body type, there are just a few tweaks to make in each when it comes to accessories. For the Pears out there, this is a GREAT look. Keep the heel height up there and avoid any shoes that cut you off at the ankles (i.e. thick strap gladiator sandals, etc). Rectangles, you're good to go. Hourglasses, if you're fuller on top, a great way to streamline would be to incorporate a streamlined blazer (black, maybe a few sequins for evening to pop the look, or just keep it clean) as a layer over the tank to reel it in and not throw proportions out of whack. Same with our Apple ladies out there.
look 2: This is a universally flattering look. The proportion of the floaty tank back to a clean, polished trouser with a slight flare at the hem is a killer combo. Apples & Pears: Here's a good time to layer on a cardigan if you want to add some coverage or elongate a bit, just make sure it falls to the hip, is tight around the arm, and drapes across the bust easily (nothing too stiff).
look 3: This look you will either love or not be able to look at due to the shorts factor. If you're an Hourglass or Apple, be careful with this one. You don't want to accentuate too much volume on top so you could always substitute something a bit more curve-hugging on top, or even just a chambray button-front shirt to add a bit more structure to the look. Hourglass, Pear, and Rectangle, you're all good to go here. If you're completely shorts-averse, throw in a pair of white skinny jeans and head on your way!
look 4: This is almost universally flattering. Almost. Apples and possibly larger busted Hourglass ladies, bring in another layer, blazer, cardi, something fitted to cinch things in a bit and add structure, OR substitute a tank that is still flowy but with an empire waist or cinching incorporated into it to keep the proportions looking how you want them to. The rest of the silhouettes can have at it. Flats are ok, but not ideal with the higher volume on top and skinny leg.
look 5: Finally, the same goes for this look although, the straight-leg, or really, slightly flared jean, makes things so easy for every shape. This is going to add shape to the Rectangles out there, keep things proportioned for the Pears and Hourglasses, and actually do the same for the Apples.

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