When the concept of handbags comes to mind, I can't think of a better way to illustrate the difference between straight men and women. To the ladies, the handbag is a crucial addition to any look. Not only do we rely on these puppies to carry our lives in them throughout the day, but a handbag can make or break an entire outfit in seconds flat.
The pedestal we put our handbags on will forever be an enigma to the straight men in our lives. Sure, they 'get it,' as far as functionality goes, but beyond that, trying to explain to a man why you need more than one brown and one black bag is like trying to pull off a four inch platform heel for a night out in San Fran. It's an exercise in futility.
We've found ten handbag picks and lined them up for today's shopping list. They run from deceivingly versatile clutches to an everyday black bag you'll wonder how you lived without. Sounds melodramatic, but we've all been there before. Shop on:
1. 10 Crosby Derek Lam Ombre Lizard Folio Clutch (www.shopbop.com), 2. Diane von Furstenberg 440 Mini leather bag (www.matchesfashion.com), 3. Club Monaco Sonia Clutch (www.shopbop.com), 4. Alexander Wang Robyn Bag (www.theoutnet.com), 5. Sophie Hulme Mini Envelope Crossbody Bag (www.stylebop.com), 6. MARC by Marc Jacobs Covert Katie Day Box Bag (www.stylebop.com), 7. Ippolito Sui Maxi Messenger Bag (www.boticca.com), 8. Claramonte Zouave Bag (www.luisaviaroma.com), 9. Dareen Hakim Le Monaco Clutch (www.boticca.com), 10. Pelechecoco Wrap Recycled Leather Bag (www.luisaviaroma.com)
The shopping list covers the external. The zen-moment quote covers the internal. It's the yin and yang I love to encourage so here we go with another goodie I discovered at an incredibly relevant time.
Have you ever been in a book store and just wandered around until you find yourself at a random rack when all of a sudden, a book jumps into your eye line in front of all the others? You know what I mean, it's as if your hand is magnetically drawn in it's direction and so you pick it up, flip it open to a random page, and find yourself reading a passage as if it was meant for you to read it right at that very moment. Timing right?
As I scrolled through my latest feeds and found the below quote, the process felt remarkably similar to my book store adventures of the past (I haven't been in one for years unless it's a random used book store, love those). It jumped right out when I found it. Or did it find me? I always wonder about that...
This one is simple and yet I forget it all the time. I was going to go off on a tangent about friendships and recent events but then realized, that's not why I chose this one.
Actions speak louder than words. If you say you want something and don't take actions, large or small, to move towards your desire, then highly likely that you don't really want it and/or don't believe you can have it/deserve it.
On top of that, it's never about the 'thing' you want. It's about what you believe that 'thing' will make you feel.
When I truly want something, to feel a certain way, it takes more than just the desire to get what I want, it takes belief that it's possible. And therein lies the tricky part. Sometimes the belief just isn't fully there. It's up to us to act, a little bit every day, and walk towards what we want whether we can see how it will happen or not. It's our job to put our left foot in front of our right.
With every uncertain step comes just the teeniest, tiniest bit of confidence to take the next small step. Belief begins to grow and that is when you begin to find your way. That's when I have at least. There's always an excuse waiting, those are easy. But if you really want something, you'll make it happen.
And here's the best part, it is your choice. Every day when you go to work, to the job you may or may not love, or put up with a person in your life you know doesn't have your best interest in mind, it is YOUR choice. It's a pain in the ass at times, but it's also one of the greatest things about being alive. Chose wisely. And if you can't make up your mind, your body may very well lead you in the right direction.
To get what you want, act. To believe you can get what you want, act. Keyword: act. And then, when you get to where you're going just ask how you can give back and help someone else find their way. Maybe it's a phone call, maybe it's a blog post, you just never know.
Going from zen back to fashion: Keep the shopping momentum going strong and continue on to the StyleShaker Closet where our team edits down our top picks and lines them up along the virtual shelves every week. This is where you can really dig into whatever you happen to be looking for. It's the perfect shopping starting point:
While you're at it, keep the momentum going and get some more inspiration in: