I'm fully aware that I set this challenge up. I just want to put that out there, for the record.
I've done something like this challenge before and I don't remember having the same level of procrastination back then.
Seriously, it is 4pm in San Francisco, and yes, I have a lot to get done right now, but you would be amazed at how much 'filler' activity I have added into my day to avoid sitting down with you for Day 4.
And then I realized, I have at least two people following me (thanks Mom and Dad) so I need to put my left foot in front of my right, and just do it already. On that note...
Today's topic for a quick 10 minute writing sesh covers this little gem:
True or false? It sounds like it could be true. I think it makes one want to say it's true. But for me, is this really true?
I promised to be 100% real with you here so I'm sticking with that promise:
I recently finished reading the unbelievable book by Eckhart Tolle called The Power of Now. I had the sample in my kindle library for years, but it took a chance encounter with a friend for me to open it back up and start reading.
And I'm so glad I did. Every other sentence led to an epiphany bomb. One, after the other.
Reading that book is also why I am going to answer 'false' to the above quote/question.
I don't think it takes being happy with yourself to be happy with what you have.
About an hour ago I wasn't really happy with myself because I was seriously procrastinating and yet, I was incredibly happy with the cup of coffee I had in my hands.
Soooo, there's that. But I'll go a bit deeper because that's what all this fabulous writing mumbo jumbo is about right? Right.
When it comes to the closet (you knew I was going there), I have seen some of the most epic wardrobes in the homes of some of the unhappiest people. What's crazy is, I can walk into those closets and see gold while all my client can see is clutter and annoyance in ready-to-wear form.
Is it because my client is unhappy with her life that she can't be happy with the contents of her MTV cribs-worthy closet?
I don't think so.
I think that my clients' view is being eclipsed by either focusing on what went down yesterday or focusing on/worrying about what is going to happen in an hour or day or month or year from now...
She isn't happy with what she has because she can't see it. She's looking backward, she's looking forward, she is looking everywhere but right here, right now.
Don't get me wrong, feeling happy and getting those warm fuzzies is amazing. Just ask Pharell:
I love happiness and when it comes, I soak it up like we all do. But happiness about who I am or where I am in my life is not a prerequisite for appreciating what I have in my life.
I don't put happiness at a higher priority level than awareness and being in the moment. I don't think I can have one without the other.
I can't be happy with what's around me until I can actually SEE what is around me.
How can you love your body and the way it fits into something you own if you can't really see your body. You're looking at it, criticizing it (ladies), and thinking about how you need to lose weight or something like that. You may be looking at it at that second, but your mind is ten pounds or more away.
How can you appreciate the item on the hanger you have in your hand if you're worrying about whether or not you will impress your date with it on or if you're thinking about how you wish you had a different top (when the one you're holding onto is in great shape and fits you well)?
How can you enjoy the bite you're chewing if you are thinking about whether that next bite is going to be the one that tips the scales on your points quota for the day?
You can't be here when you're there.
Last night I was on a flight that went from Sarasota, connected in Atlanta, and then went on to San Francisco.
As we were on our final descent into Atlanta, I was beyond stressed. We were delayed, big time. We were arriving in terminal A and my next flight was departing out of terminal E. If you've ever spent any time in Atlanta's airport, then you know how annoying it is to get from point A to point, well, E in this case.
I kept looking out the window (I'm always in the window seat when possible) watching as the plane was getting closer and closer to the ground. I was willing it with everything I had, to land faster, to move faster. For the love of God I needed to make that second flight or I would be stuck in Atlanta for the night. Which, mind you, I have done before and it isn't the end of the world, but it would have been really annoying.
So there I am, willing the plane to hurry up with my mystical mental powers (read: not mystical at all but hey, it couldn't hurt) staring out the window along the right wing. And then, the plane tilted sharply to the left, and I saw...hint: it wasn't a woman dressed in traditional colonial garb (Bridesmaids reference).
I saw the stars.
I saw the Big Dipper. Then I saw the Little Dipper. Then I saw another one I made up in my mind was the North Star even though I'm pretty sure it wasn't. And before I knew it, the wheels hit the ground and I smiled.
I realized how worrying about making the next flight wasn't going to do anything. And even though that never stops me from worrying, I had backup in the form of a quick flight maneuver and shiny stars to bring me back into the present moment. I couldn't help but be fixated.
The kicker is, I wouldn't have seen those stars if I was busy worrying about making the second flight and hadn't snapped out of it.
I would have hated to miss seeing those stars.
Sometimes it just takes a little tilt to get us to snap back into the present.
Sometimes it takes a whole lot more.
But when you get there, into the 'now', being happy is just the icing on the cake.
p.s. I made the connection.
So no, I don't believe being happy with what you have depends on how happy you are with yourself.
To me, it is less about happiness and more about being right where you are, and being cool knowing that right here and now is exactly where you are supposed to be, cluttered closet/mind or not.
But that's just me. What do you think? Take the challenge and write it out. See where your stream of consciousness gets you.
Day 4, whew, done.
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